【Workshop(s)】Breakup healing course, don't be hurt and enter the next relationship, Taipei August

**■ The original price of the course is 6,000 yuan, and the early bird discount is 4,800 yuan.** **■ Course duration: 10 hours** **■ Class location: Dingai Culture (4th floor, No. 56, Xining North Road, Datong District, Taipei City)** **■ Course time: 8/5 (Tuesday), 8/12 (Tuesday), 8/19 (Tuesday), 8/26 (Tuesday) 19:30 – 22:00** https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-slogan3_comp.jpg When a relationship ends, the heart is filled with sadness of loss and suppressed intense pain. Only then do you truly realize that heartache is as painful as being injured, but the difference is that the invisible hurt makes you feel at a loss and you don’t know how to relieve the pain in your heart. The part that was originally very present in our hearts was completely destroyed in this process. After breaking up, we feel that a part of ourselves seems to have disappeared, and all kinds of negative voices follow. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-%E5%BF%83%E8%81%B2%E5%9C%96%E6%8B%B7%E8%B2%9D_comp.jpg **I thought this would make me feel better...** Some people will work like crazy, attend various parties, etc., trying to divert their attention and make themselves feel less uncomfortable; Or they are eager to find the next relationship to fill the loss and emptiness in their hearts; Some people just want to let time slowly fade away the pain and refuse to contact anything and anyone related to past emotions. However, when the night is quiet and everyone is asleep, when I think about the past relationship, the negative voices in my heart still come flooding back. I don’t know how to face them, and I still fall into lows in an instant. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-slogan_comp-1.jpg **Only by facing the pain of breaking up can you love the next person well** Unhealed wounds make us helpless when facing the difficulties and challenges of the next relationship. Don't have too high expectations for the beautiful parts of emotions. If you use low standards to look at emotions, you will be less likely to be disappointed. Because of the fear of getting hurt, I am increasingly afraid to commit my whole heart to my emotions. When faced with my reserved self in emotions, I can't help but doubt whether I really love? We think that ignoring this pain can get our life back on track,**we don't expect that by doing so, the emotional hurt will have a negative impact on the next relationship and even affect our own views on love.** https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-slogan4_comp.jpg **In addition to being loved, we also want to have the ability to truly love others** **Breaking up is so painful because you have been through it so carefully**. However, at that time we had the desire to love each other but not the ability to love, so we loved each other in the wrong way. Inappropriate methods cause emotional harm, and the original love can no longer be conveyed, leading to a breakup. Each of us has shortcomings in this relationship,**our real pain is that we are not able to love each other in an appropriate way, which is not what we want to be in love.** This class will take everyone to review this relationship, bravely face the pain after breaking up, and see the irremovable behind the pain; understand the causes of emotional hurt, and forgive each other for the hurt caused by lack of ability; find the meaning of this relationship to oneself, and because of expectations for oneself, take back the autonomy at this moment, so that you have the opportunity to become a person who is more capable of loving. After the course, we will be grateful for this lost relationship, which will make us better ourselves and more capable of loving the next person! __**Course Contents:**__ https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92%E7%AB%A0%E7%AF%80%E5%9C%96%E6%96%B0-1_comp.jpg After a breakup, the most obvious pain is losing someone you love very much. We try our best to face it, accept the outcome of the breakup, and find ways to get back on track. Eventually we will adapt to living alone and gradually forget the pain, but the absence of pain does not mean that the emotional wounds have healed. In fact, some wounds are already left before the breakup, but they are not seen. For example, a fierce quarrel in the later stage of a relationship and the other party's merciless accusations make you doubt whether you are really selfish; you give your best but get indifferent treatment. It turns out that no matter how hard you try, you will still be ignored. These injuries affect the way we view ourselves and our emotions. Becoming less confident, or perhaps a little timid, because of the fear of getting hurt again, but not knowing what to do. The first step to healing from a breakup is to treat the injuries left behind well. You know that those injuries are there, waiting for you to face them bravely, so that they can truly heal. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/smush-webp/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-%E8%AA%B2%E7%A8%8B%E6%B4%BB%E5%8B%95%E5%9C%96-1_comp.jpg.webp https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92%E7%AB%A0%E7%AF%80%E5%9C%96%E6%96%B0-2_comp.jpg Because, we invest most of ourselves in this relationship. But no one told us that when this relationship ends, it will bring such a serious imbalance in life that will catch people off guard... We can't help but think of our past, and negative emotions will come over us uncontrollably. This makes healing after a breakup even more difficult, because every time you look back, it's like being hurt again, which is painful. After breaking up, there is nothing we can do and it makes us suffer. Some things cannot be changed and some feelings can no longer be explained. You know, there are some questions you have to answer for yourself, why did the emotions get to this point? Why can't I bear it even though it hurts so much? These questions need to be responded to so that wounded hearts can be healed. Only by going through these pains can you see the part of the emotion that you really want to be in and protect, and not get lost again in the next relationship. We will pull you to the edge of the cliff, so that you can regain your center of gravity, go through the seemingly helpless but important journey, and find the deepest part of your heart. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/smush-webp/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-%E8%AA%B2%E7%A8%8B%E6%B4%BB%E5%8B%95%E5%9C%96-2_comp.jpg.webp From the moment we agreed to be together, we tried hard to "love". In a relationship, we try to understand, support, and give, and we try our best to adjust in order to make the other person happy or consider his or her needs. But in the end, everything changed. Not only was we unable to continue loving each other, we also hurt each other. The result of being hurt makes us forget our original desire to love, and even question whether we have changed. Such self-denial is a wound that is difficult to repair after the relationship ends. Let us look back at our past selves and see ourselves who are willing to love no matter what the outcome is. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92%E7%AB%A0%E7%AF%80%E5%9C%96%E6%96%B0-3_comp.jpg I know that behind the sadness and anger, a part of you is disappointed in yourself. We promised to cherish each other and do everything we can to love each other. But the process of love has many insurmountable difficulties and obstacles, and before we can find a solution, the relationship is over. I can't help but wonder, if I could change, would the results be different? This is a desire to love each other well, and this desire should not be wiped out by the result of a breakup. But the difficult part is that when we see this love, we are reminded that there is still room for improvement. After all, our love still cannot meet our inner belief of what love should be like. Questioning yourself is different from looking at your own shortcomings pragmatically. Being willing to understand your own shortcomings means that you have deep expectations for yourself when facing love. This will become your indelible focus, that is, to become a better self and have the ability to love well. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/smush-webp/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-%E8%AA%B2%E7%A8%8B%E6%B4%BB%E5%8B%95%E5%9C%96-3_comp.jpg.webp When love turns into hurt, what exactly goes wrong in this process? In fact, there must have been signs of these problems before the breakup, but for various reasons, we did not face and deal with them properly. These reasons may be fear of relationship breakdown, fear of getting hurt, not knowing what to do, etc. Whatever the reason, it is undeniable that we put many reasons before love. By carefully reviewing and reflecting, and expressing your inner apologies for love, you will let the hope for a better future heal your current hurt self. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92%E7%AB%A0%E7%AF%80%E5%9C%96%E6%96%B0-4_comp.jpg Many people say that the only way to get through a breakup is to truly let go. So try every possible way to make this relationship a thing of the past and start afresh. It is really not easy to let go bravely, because it requires overcoming many emotional entanglements, and this road is often very difficult. Letting go is a necessary process, but in order to maintain the beautiful self in the process of letting go, you need to heal yourself. No matter how bad the relationship is, there are still moments when you give your all, and there are still important experiences that you can give meaning to. During this healing process, you don’t need another person to prove your value. Instead, the best proof of your love for yourself is for you to accompany yourself wholeheartedly. When the healing is over, you will be grateful for the experience that the past relationship brought you, which made you a better person and made you know how to love better. https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/smush-webp/2023/06/%E5%88%86%E6%89%8B%E7%99%82%E7%99%92-%E8%AA%B2%E7%A8%8B%E6%B4%BB%E5%8B%95%E5%9C%96-4_comp.jpg.webp The end of a relationship may make people lose the courage to love, or even dare to have expectations for the future. Such thoughts are the greatest harm to yourself. People have a direction to work towards and the motivation to become better because of their expectations for themselves. By recording a video, you can let that important person in your future life see your expectations in a relationship, and then be willing to devote yourself to the areas you can work hard in at this moment and become a better person. __**Who is suitable for this breakup healing course:**__ 1. You after the breakup 2. You have not yet gotten over the influence of your last relationship 3 I once had a deep and unforgettable relationship, but I don’t know how to face it __**You can learn in this course:**__ 1. End the pain and negative cycle caused by breakups 2. Recognize and affirm your own contribution and efforts in the relationship 3. Find the key problem in your relationship and stop repeating it 4. Give yourself a chance to heal and regain the strength to move forward **Lecturer introduction: Chen Yanrong** https://www.dace.com.tw/wp-content/uploads/2023/06/%E8%AC%9B%E5%B8%AB%E7%85%A72_comp.jpg I had a relationship that I thought would lead to marriage. During this relationship, I experienced many problems that many people encounter in different relationships. There is a process of mutual hurt, facing the pain of being betrayed, working hard to repair each other's feelings, and facing the torment of not being able to see oneself in the emotions. Finally, choose to break up to give each other a way out. Now, we are both better people and continue to bless each other. I hope to pass on my important and valuable experience so that people can understand how to see their own existence from their own experience, and how to acquire the ability to love step by step. Qualifications: ◆ Dialogue counseling, couples counseling, career counseling ◆ Certified analyst of "HBDI Whole Brain Advantage Development Model" of Herman International Corporation, USA ◆ Lecturer and teacher of the Haohaohao Family Education and Culture Foundation ◆ Lecturer and teacher of Dingai Cultural Business ◆ Host of the "Say Love" program of the National Educational Broadcasting Station